It's not possible to make anybody do anything against their will unless you're coercing them. Don't make your partner think you're Asian Dating after him or her and that you're desperate. Don't lie about your age-or anything else. Play your favorite CD. Set time aside for exercise in the days before the date, whether it's yoga or push ups. Because it's something they know pretty well and have mulled over. I don't care how F'ing nice it is. If she laughs at their jokes, but doesn't find yours very humorous, move along. A woman who loves dancing will be in the dance clubs or dance schools. Be sure to always have a cell phone and cash for a cab so that you never feel you have to rely on your date for a ride home. Looking as if that is all you're interested in and giving the impression you're a gold digger. If he or she ignores the way you feel, too bad. And if you're thinking you're all high and mighty because you're not single and don't need this, well, goody goody gumdrops for you, but be a saint and share this shit with your single friends.